I want to be a billionaire, visit 100 countries, weight 225 pounds with 8% body fat, bang 300 chicks, have a 10-0 MMA record, climb Mount Everest, write a handful of bestsellers, probably telling stories from my awesome life, and find spiritual enlightenment.
I think BIG, would never limit my mind! I will chase my dreams, catch them, and put them in a cage for others to see. Hey, you, look, look what I’ve done, look what I’ve achieved, look what big dreams I’ve caught. Look how many cages I have, look how many cages I’ve filled. An empty cage is a hollowing regret, but look, look how full my cages are—oh, so colorful! Are you seeing it? I achieve goals to fill my circus and put on a great ego show: a spectacle of a life lived big.
No, no, no, what am I saying here? Really, my intention is much more subtle and furtive than that. See, I want you not to look at my captured dreams, but to look at me and to infer from my mere presence how great I am. I want you to infer what’s in my cages without me showing them to you, without me saying anything about it. I want you to marvel at my very being, at the person I have built with my blood, sweat, and withheld tears, at the person I have grown into through my big dream chasing and big dream catching. I want to radiate greatness and be like, “Whatever, this is just me, no big deal.” I want you to feel the conquering strength of my humility.
Those are my ego dreams, none of which is what I truly want.
Thinking A Little Bigger
My True Will is cage-freeness and image-lightness. Doing what I truly want to do, I can’t be concerned with chasing culture-instilled dreams, filling ego dream cages, forestalling random regrets, and appearing a certain way. The only regret I must negate is that of failing to do my True Will—what I actually enjoy doing, what I deeply value in life, what I wholeheartedly appreciate. These are the regrets I truly fear:
- pursuing ego pride over true pride,
- not exerting the total power of my will, and
- withholding gratitude for the little goals I achieve.
My True Will is NOT to think big, but to think a little bigger, and then a little bigger, and then a little bigger. I want to be present with every little step I take forward, revel in every little goal I achieve, and be grateful for every little act of my will that is true. Never shooting for the stars, yet always expanding my horizon. Esto voluntas vera!
By the way: One dollar I’m proud of having earned is worth more than a thousand I don’t appreciate. One country I explore in all its richness makes for a greater experience than a hundred I rush through with a busy tourist schedule. One pound of additional muscle mass I feel strengthening my stature is better than thirty more pounds that still don’t feel enough. Sex with three girls I have glorious chemistry with is more enjoyable than sex with three-hundred girls I need chemistry to be with. Hiking on a hill while I praise the gods of nature is more fulfilling than summiting a mountain while I keep a thankless heart. You get the picture; it’s not that I’d be the first one to have painted it.
By further way: Nothing is uglier than a lack of gratitude, and failing to appreciate ugliness is a lack of gratitude, too.
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