1. Mental Suffering
“I will never be/act/live like that again!”
Do you need to stir up negative emotions—your shames, worries, embarrassments, your feelings of failure, inadequacy, not-being-good-enoughness—to learn from your past, motivate future actions, and get an emotion-driven edge to become a high-achieving man?
A little mental suffering goes a long way.
A frozen mind will get you nowhere. But a cool mind does not wallow in negativity, either. It takes the little yet incisive negativity it has, adds accepting presence and pride to it, and thus achieves goals.
Think about that next time you feel the need to ruminate on negative events.
2. Social Dominance
“I shall be feared and respected!”
Do you need to have a stern readiness to command and shout and interrupt and attack and punish to become a respected man?
A little social dominance goes a long way.
A submissive attitude will get you nowhere. But a grounded attitude does not obsessively overpower others, either. It takes the little yet incisive dominance it has, adds good, clear, assertive intentions and timeliness to it, and thus earns respect.
Think about that next time you feel the urge to rebuke your woman.
3. Personal Improvement
“I need to turn myself into a hypercharged growth machine!”
Do you need to compare yourself to others, change your entire life by next month, and optimize all aspects of it simultaneously to become a better man?
A little personal improvement goes a long way.
An inert will will get you nowhere. But an intelligent will does not unsustainably overexert itself, either. It takes the little yet incisive optimization goals it has, adds a precise plan and patience to it, and thus betters itself.
Think about that next time you feel the temptation to lengthen your to-do list.
4. Life Experience
“I must live the life of a movie hero every single day!”
Do you need to make novel, incredible, life-changing experiences 24/7 in order to aggregate enough life substance in your soul to become a wiser man?
A little life experience goes a long way.
A purely book-learned soul will get you nowhere. But a developing soul does not manically demand stimulating non-stop adventures, either. It takes the little yet incisive experiences it has, adds rational introspection and reflection to it, and thus acquires wisdom.
Think about that next time you feel the fear of missing out.