“Emotional intelligence is a soft skill, and for good reason: it’s for pussies and you know it.”
Bro, do you even realize how emotional you’re being right now saying that?
“Who cares, I don’t give a fuck about feelings.”
Feelings aren’t emotions, they’re just subjective experiences.
Emotions are the wisdom that our body has gathered and refined over tens of millions of years to evaluate its environment and motivate appropriate action.
Emotional intelligence describes our ability to apply that wisdom to our life in modern society.
Consider all the things that depend on emotional intelligence, including:
- Willpower. If you don’t know how to control your emotions, you can’t do what you truly want to do.
- Mental toughness. If you don’t understand your emotions, you can’t catch yourself being weak and stop being weak.
- Social life. If you don’t understand other people’s emotions, you won’t have many friends, let alone fulfilling relationships.
- Leadership. If you don’t know what motivates people to do stuff, you can’t lead them to do stuff like completing a mutual mission.
- Money. If you don’t understand how people primarily buy promises of emotions, you won’t sell your product.
- Achievement. If you don’t know how to deal with stressful emotions, you’ll burn out before you achieve your goals.
- Success. If you don’t know how to keep up motivational emotions, you won’t stay motivated and disciplined.
- Freedom. If you’re not the master of your emotions, you’re their slave.
This is why I write about mindcoolness and the science of emotion regulation. For while emotions are the embodied wisdom of our evolutionary past, we must be able to consciously grasp and control them if we want to thrive in our unnatural, over-civilized world.
- Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
- How Resilient People Regulate Their Emotions
- How Emotions Interact and How to Control Them Effortlessly
- 8 Reasons Why People Regulate Their Emotions