In a state of mindful presence, you do not judge as your mind is too cool, too calm, too free to fabricate judgments. Does this mean that mindcoolness is good? No—because fabricating judgments is not bad.
As long as you think that judging is bad, you cannot disengage from your judging mind—because you keep judging it. “Judging is bad” is a judgment.
And what about people who judge you or others, are they doing something wrong? No. Their complaints merely indicate their mind’s temperature. Temperature is a natural phenomenon. See it as what it is.
And know that when you lose your cool because of someone else’s judging, you actually lose your cool because of your own judging. Someone saying “You’re so…” or “Don’t be such a…” is merely giving your mind an impetus to start its own judging. Another person’s judgments can only hurt or offend you if you use them to judge yourself. And not just hating, even positivity is but a tendency to judge a certain way; he who does not judge also does not praise.
As long as you simply watch yourself and enjoy yourself, your mind will stay cool. If you catch yourself judging, just laugh at it and look at your judgments, until they slowly fade away. Again, their fading away is not “better” than their staying; it is a natural process. And, naturally, I do not write this to give you advice, but only to trigger an innocent curiosity in you—a curiosity to be more aware.
- Why You Should Judge Other People
- Why Moral Relativism Is False Humility
- MBSR Mindfulness Challenge – Part 2 [Weeks 1+2]
- How to Take Action Without Judging