As I explain in Willpower Condensed, January 1 is a special day only for weak-willed people. We want every day to make us stronger. We take every chance to steel our will. We do not wait to take action.
Nonetheless, it is our cultural tradition to let the turn of the year inspire us to reflect on our life, our achievements, our shortcomings, our goals, our habits, and the refinements we can implement to do our True Will even better.
Let us embrace that inspiration instead of being cynical about the statistical reality of New Year’s resolutions!
So, what are you going to do differently in 2017?
I can tell you what my resolution is: sexual asceticism. I will not ejaculate for 100 days. No sex, no masturbation. Once I feel strong enough, I might even let a chick suck it just to make things harder (no pun intended), to make the challenge more interesting by having to resist the urge to orgasm while the temptation gets brutal. Yet since puberty, I have not once refrained from sex, be it real or hand-made, for more than a month straight, so the 100 days should itself be challenging enough.
Why do I do this?
- to train my bodily self-control and exercise self-mastery
- to have a simple reason not to hit on random chicks when I should be focused on more important things anyway
- to learn how my interactions with women change when I know that banging them is not an option
- to test the hypotheses claimed by the No Fap community: does the eschewal of sexual release make a man more confident, energetic, focused, sociable, and sexually magnetic? (I doubt that; then again, most of the guys in that community are porn addicts, so I can’t really relate to them.)
- to have more time for working and writing while transmuting my sexual energy into productivity
- to see how it affects my masculine psyche
My willpower challenge differs from standard New Year’s resolutions in four respects. First, I will do it for only 100 days, not 365 because I do not expect much willpower gains after the first few months; also, I am free to extend my challenge if I so want. Second, I will not build a new habit because I am perfectly happy with all the good habits I have at this point in my life. Third, I have no resolutions besides this one. Fourth, I will not start on January 1 because I have already started.
The fourth point is crucial. Today is December 18 and I am already on day 9 of my challenge. This is the main message I want to convey in this post: If you already know what your resolution for 2017 will be, do not wait until January 1. Better start today, start right now!
The average person does not stick to their New Year’s resolutions (in fact, 88% fail). How can you be different? It’s simple: don’t fail! But you want to prove to yourself that you’re better right from the start, don’t you? Well then: start earlier! Get a head start by starting today. Do not wait for the momentum of the masses—the average people—to drag you along. Be proactive and start taking action now!
Finally, remember my fourth point: I have no new resolutions besides sexual abstinence. See, mediocre people fail with their resolutions because they have multiple. Nothing makes people more mediocre than their fear of being mediocre, which leads them to overestimate their willpower, set too many goals, define them imprecisely, and fail. If you want to know how to do it right, check out my book Willpower Condensed.
So, what are you going to do? What is your New Year’s resolution for 2017 and when are you going to put your will into action?
Read up on my personal challenge progress:
- Sexual Abstinence Challenge – Part 1 [30/100 Days]
- Sexual Abstinence Challenge – Part 2 [50/100 Days]
- Sexual Abstinence Challenge – Part 3 [60/100 Days]
- Sexual Abstinence Challenge – Part 4 [100/100 Days]