With radical acceptance, you accept your past, future, and present.
Your past involves your childhood, bad memories, and traumatic events. Accepting your past makes sense because it creates peace of mind and allows you to look ahead. No problem here.
Your future involves your plans, goals, and ambitions. Accepting your future makes sense because it creates outcome independence and regulates your fear of failure. No problem here.
Your present involves your bodymind, physical environment, and social power. How can you accept your present state and still have the will to improve? Here is the problem. Radical acceptance seems to stagnate personal growth by creating contentment with the status quo.
Your present self involves also your desire for change and pride and achievement.
By accepting your present, you are accepting who you are, and who you are includes your desire for changing who you are.
By accepting your present, you are accepting what you have, and what you have includes your desire for attaining something you have not.
- The Basic Problem of Mindfulness
- Don’t Confuse Acceptance with Happiness
- Alan Watts on Self-Discipline and Self-Acceptance
- Will Vs. Flow: Can You Force Yourself to Do Something?