In this special episode of the Mindcoolness podcast, I talk with Timothy Wenger (@themaneffect) about the concept of masculinity. He’s a great guy with a great project (themaneffect.com), and although our conversation is all over the place because we had too many ideas to talk about, it will give you numerous impulses for thinking about his project’s guiding question: What does it mean to be a man?
[0:00] Introduction and greetings
[1:39] What is The Man Effect?
[2:42] Where do women get their idea of masculinity from?
[4:50] Contradictory opinions on masculinity (Masculinity Survey)
[7:18] Positive masculinity vs. toxic masculinity
[9:45] School shootings as an example of toxic masculinity
[12:29] Why do we value masculinity?
[13:36] Why are men becoming more effeminate?
[15:57] Masculinity and social status
[16:28] Spiral dynamics
[18:10] Cultural constructs and archetypes (Robert Moore, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover)
[20:54] Ethological Definition of Masculinity
[23:00] Defining masculinity socially to shape men’s behavior?
[24:13] Women, feminists, and straw feminists
[26:06] Dom’s masculine development: masculine values and utilitarian outcomes
[27:18] Timothy’s masculine development: authenticity and taking action
[29:50] Emotional intelligence
[30:59] Should you embrace your “feminine side” and be “balanced”?
[33:46] Sexual polarity and an experimental approach to politics
[37:46] Timothy’s future projects and farewell
Thank you, Tim, for the conversation!