You don't have your own will, and neither do I. Nobody has an individual will. In many posts on this blog I have assumed the opposite: that you must look within yourself in order to find out what you truly want—to find your True Will. I have now come to realize that I was constructing a mirage. In reality, your will is not some mystical individualistic force within you that demands excavation by digging into the depths of your "self." Rather, it is the dynamic result of everything you have … [Read more...]

In order to do what you want, you must know what you want and, ideally, why you want it. The most common reason why we want something is because others want it (this is called the mimetic theory of desire). We want a high-quality partner, successful children, a nice home, an expensive car, a purpose in life, financial freedom, and so forth—because that's what everybody else wants. Our desires are imitations of the desires of others. Differences in desires between people typically stem from … [Read more...]